Comments on: My #1 Parenting Tip: Shut Up!

By: Consolata

Consolata — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 10:41:11 +0000

I agree with you absolutely. Yelling has not achieved any results in my household either so I use the “lose a privilege trick” you mentioned above and it works absolutely. I got this same tip from “Super Nanny”- she gives meaningful parenting tips to the various families featured in her program episodes.
My children are more often that not well behaved, but they are kids and when tired or restless or sugar loaded they act up.
Another tip that will help reduce misbehaving and sibling rivalry is to keep your children busy when you notice they are restless or listless – this will enable them channel their energy and mind/thoughts into some useful purpose.
Lovely blog by the way.
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By: Cara

Cara — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 05:07:18 +0000

I popped over from SITS and am loving this post! We are what we call a “yelling house”. I am going to try and take your advice and shut the hell up and hopefully we may across a calmer and more peaceful home. Love the blog!

By: Kimberly

Kimberly — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 03:46:31 +0000

visiting from sits! Can I just say….I really needed to hear (read) your post today. I am a yeller. I hate yelling. I have 5 kids, and usually, they get along really well, but man….can they bring out the crazy yeller in me! When they start in, I seem to turn into another person! I am going to read your recomendations. I need all the help I can get! I just have to be reminded of what I’m doing. and you’re right. Yelling does not work….just makes everything worse…so why do we do it? like a dog returning to its vomit. thats how I always feel afterwards. In need of reform! Thanks for the encouraging word!
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By: Double Wide Mom

Double Wide Mom — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 13:50:18 +0000

p.s. Here from SITS. HAPPY SITS DAY!
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By: Double Wide Mom

Double Wide Mom — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 13:49:38 +0000

My very best parenting advice is from Barney Fife: Nip it in the bud!
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By: Carrie

Carrie — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 02:16:26 +0000

Easier said than done! LOL but you’re right…. everytime I yell, it puts them in control.
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By: Babes about Town

Babes about Town — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 18:03:09 +0000

Great post. I get stuck in the yelling, negotiating cycle far too often and I realise that none of these are effective. I’ve also realised how so much of the bad behaviour is a response to how I respond to his bad behaviour and it goes on in a vicious circle.

I like the idea of task-oriented discipline as opposed to just chucking punishments at them. And you’re right that ignoring them is a powerful tool (although sometimes my pre-schooler will up the ante when I try the ignoring tactic). Yelling is not cool though, so will work more on the silent approach!
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By: Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 03:06:29 +0000

Wow! I think I could have taken all that you said in the first few examples from my own household just today. (snow day!!) I have always been the calm one but, as my children have gotten older and more verbal I have become a “yeller” and I do not like it and it does not work for long. My children; 11, 10 & 6 have started using the hate, shut up and idiot words and it just breaks my heart to hear. I praise the advise and I look forward to using it. Tomorrow will hopefully start a new way of life for us all.

Thank you,
Sarah

By: Amanda {my life badly written}

Amanda {my life badly written} — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 05:42:25 +0000

This is great post I am a yeller and I hate it. It is usually out of frustration. The thing is my 4 year old now yells back which I think is terrible so I am trying to rid myself of the habit. I don’t want him yelling at me when his 15!!!
Thanks for the other links, I will go and check them out now.
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By: Dana aka Frugalistic Mama

Dana aka Frugalistic Mama — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 20:38:41 +0000

I am so glad to see that I am not the only “yelling mom” I am trying so hard to recover but I was recently blessed with my 3rd bundle of joy while still trying to raise a 9 year old who is going on 14 and a 2 year old who is ALL boy, Thanx for this advise and resources I am def going to check them out!!